My only advice is to have them one at a time. (I had twins and I'm still trying to catch up on my sleep sixteen years later ha ha ha).
Best baby book EVER.
Best baby book EVER.
Well my friends ... it's official.
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Congrats!!
You aren't late. I am turning 32 next month and still haven't started a family. Although that is the plans soon enough lol.
You aren't late. I am turning 32 next month and still haven't started a family. Although that is the plans soon enough lol.
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Just try not to drop them on their heads too often, otherwise you should be fine.
Congratulations man!! Just had mine last year and i'm 34 haha! Sometimes, you won't know why the baby cries.. normally is because of 3 things, hungry, sleep, or just wants love ( be on your arms) but.. for those other times.. when you don't know how to calm the baby, this vídeo will save you life, BEST advice i ever got! Hahaha
Or just look for the Robert Hamilton "how to calm a baby" video
https://m.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3D6iYdaC_w6iI&ved=2ahUKEwiV2svf2tvhAhWCxIUKHSq6BKcQwqsBMAN6BAgFEBU&usg=AOvVaw1zch7w6Ql7Tz2CotfmB4Kq
Or just look for the Robert Hamilton "how to calm a baby" video
https://m.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3D6iYdaC_w6iI&ved=2ahUKEwiV2svf2tvhAhWCxIUKHSq6BKcQwqsBMAN6BAgFEBU&usg=AOvVaw1zch7w6Ql7Tz2CotfmB4Kq
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Thank you all for the well wishes and advice! The thing I am actually most terrified of is time. I feel like time passes by so quickly already, and I know it will turn into a complete blur when the little one comes.
My Dad passed away a couple years ago and aside from that throwing me into a depressive spiral (that I am still working on) it made the last couple years literally fly by like crazy. It was like me and my family lived in this protective bubble where nothing bad really ever happened then my Dad passes away at 58, the bubble is popped, and time begins to fly by so fast I can't believe it. His death kinda made me feel like I have a time limit on life (comparable to his), and if I make it to or beyond his age then I somehow got lucky. I calculate where my child would be when I am 58, but that's just a lot of the anxiety kicking in.
I'll definitely need to practice mindfulness to stay in the moments I have with my child and enjoy them.
My Dad passed away a couple years ago and aside from that throwing me into a depressive spiral (that I am still working on) it made the last couple years literally fly by like crazy. It was like me and my family lived in this protective bubble where nothing bad really ever happened then my Dad passes away at 58, the bubble is popped, and time begins to fly by so fast I can't believe it. His death kinda made me feel like I have a time limit on life (comparable to his), and if I make it to or beyond his age then I somehow got lucky. I calculate where my child would be when I am 58, but that's just a lot of the anxiety kicking in.
I'll definitely need to practice mindfulness to stay in the moments I have with my child and enjoy them.
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Just spend all the time you can with them. Being involved makes such a difference.
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I can tend to do just the same thing from time to time. I sit around and think.... my life could easily be half over and realistically probably is close to half over. I could fall over dead a week after I retire, or tomorrow, or in four years. The best thing you can do is not get hung up on it.
I'm one of those people who are obsessive over preparing for the future, not wasting money, not buying expensive things.... my wife is a bit of the opposite. I've learned that preparing for the future is important, but living for it is incredibly foolish since we never know when our time in this world will be up. Enjoy the here and now. Plan for the future, but don't forget to live today. I plan to start taking my daughter fishing, to the local pro am baseball games, down to the park to play when the weather gets better.... work will be there long after your gone, and if you work for someone else they will replace you sometimes before your last shift was even over. Life is a journey, and having my daughter has made it so much more enjoyable for me!
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Congratulations to you both, I went the other way, 42 with a 24 and 20-year-old and our 20th Wedding Anniversary next month (I was lucky, hit on the right one at 18) Take time, the DIY can wait, the pots and hoovering can wait, time with them you can't get back and it flys so much quicker than you think, Enjoy every minute.
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Many congratulations 
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You are right to be scared. Children are a huge responsibility and how they turn out is 100% on you. People don't like to be told this.
The key to having happy and well adjusted children is healthy attachment - in the psychological sense - and socialising your children properly during the first 4 years. THOSE are the really important years and this can't be overstated. Look into both of those terms and do all the things that allow good healthy attachment and strong social skills to form in your children.
yeah.. about the time thing.. it will be different.. this is how you will be working from now on.. at least is how i do hahaha
https://ibb.co/RTgPfxs
https://ibb.co/RTgPfxs
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The borg implants version 2.0 are not ready... but I'm sure you are ... Congratulations.
LolThe borg implants version 2.0 are not ready... but I'm sure you are ... Congratulations.
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Don't over-think and over-worry would be my advice. Enjoy it. Ignore people with worrying stories, and asking stuff like 'you sure this is okay' while pointing at your kid, 'I had an niece who's baby had' .. horror story follows.
Babies will cry, get sick and what not. It is normal. Go with flow. Don't read too many books. Chickens, elephants, crocodiles, dogs, ice bears all have offspring and raise them without reading books. You have instincts. Trust them.
Sit down every now and then to examine your own feelings. From the second my daughter was born I felt different, connected with universe or so best describes it. It's freakin beautiful.
Vaccinations save lives.
Babies will cry, get sick and what not. It is normal. Go with flow. Don't read too many books. Chickens, elephants, crocodiles, dogs, ice bears all have offspring and raise them without reading books. You have instincts. Trust them.
Sit down every now and then to examine your own feelings. From the second my daughter was born I felt different, connected with universe or so best describes it. It's freakin beautiful.
Vaccinations save lives.
congrats. I had my twins at 21 and my third at 24. I was really worried with the twins we were young and dumb. The best piece of advise i ever got that really put my mind at easy was "no one is ever more than 30% prepared to be a parent." It is so true even when you think you are prepared you are not really. You grow as a parent as the child grows. Show love and patience and it will be a great ride.
Hello fellow twin parent!
DO you have boys girls or one one each? THe twins are boys and just turned 11 and my youngest boy is 8.
their doctor told me once that twins are not twice as hard they are 100x as hard. That was my experience at least for the first couple years! wont trade it for anything though.
I know a couple people with triplets i can not even fathom.
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