Tension on TN

[FoolishTech]

Too many members get hot headed over things. Remember to only put in print what you would say to someones face.

That's exactly the problem. When I got my strike I said something that I most definitely would have said to the guy's face. In fact I was a little more reserved than that! What gets me hot headed is when someone puts me down... and when that happens if I had a "face" to say something to, I'd probably be using more than words to communicate with them.

I think that's about everyone's "problem" overall. A lot of this "tension" is caused when someone puts down someone else simply because they disagree. When that person gets put down they retaliate.

These put downs can be very simple remarks that show lack of respect, and they can be very subtle while not technically breaking any TN rules including "attacking another user" but they ultimately mean "you don't know what you are doing" ...

 

[HFultzjr]

IMO...."verification" steps would be a burden to the site overall. Forum staff would have to invest much more time going through the steps of admitting new members.

The community here self polices quite a bit....new members that are not techs are usually sniffed out and something is said. The new member is shunned in some way.

But I don't think "is he/she a real tech, or an end user" was the cause of the antagonistic new member that caused the tension which produced this thread. It was more the attitude of that new member. I believe they were a legit tech in some form.

There is mention of proof of ownership of the business. In the forum rules, it mentions that the site is for computer technicians. I think the forum should stay open to technicians..even if they don't own the biz. IMO it really depletes the pool of resources and knowledge if the forum or any sub parts are really limited to owners only. The issue stems around personality of the member...and that personality could be in any type of member..biz owner, tech, or...poser.

Getting a "fiesty" thread that lasts a day or two or three isn't always bad. It will happens around forums everywhere. But ya know one thing about it? It generates traffic. And traffic is good for a forum..specifically for the forum owner(s).

From a management point of view...it's the behavior of a member over a long period of time that should count. Occasionally someone will get their panties in a bind over something, we're all human. But if it's consistently day after day...then perhaps something needs to be addressed, and their value to the forum overall needs to be examined.

The person that caused this thread....they were a fresh sign up, basically came in with guns blazing, and several members that are quick to say something did so. As the thread went on...we also saw something I mentioned....I mentioned "the forum self polices"....we saw a few more members jump in and help defend the other members that got in the scrap earlier.

Yeah some mild verbal attacks happened...some mud slinging...some mild name calling....we're all adults here, we should be able to handle that without losing sleep.

Cliff notes....tension happens, it didn't get that bad, we should realize it will pass...and we should realize it will happen again. It didn't get all THAT bad.....just some chest thumping and ruffled feathers.

YeOldeStonecat,

You've seemed to hit the nail on the head. Things will happen no matter what. Some days we give the beating, some days we receive the beating. Part of life, get used to it and move on. If you don't like the direction a thread is headed, don't fan the flames. Ignore it and it WILL go away. I've personally have avoided some threads that I didn't feel comfortable with and moved on to the next. As for limiting membership or certain areas to business owners, I'm not sure that is the way to go. What about aspiring techs who maybe working for someone else? Remember, we weren't all born with a business handed to us.....at least I wasn't. Some of the best technicians I've met, do not own their own business. But you can sure as well bet, I've learned a lot from them. I see this forum as one of the best to aspiring techs. As for end users and such, I think we can ignore them and weed out who they are. I've been following this thread closely and think we need to move on. Less members won't solve the problem. We will only end up with "veterans" doing the same behavior. We are all human and that's just what happens. MOVE ON!

My opinion only.

 

[Martyn]

That's exactly the problem. When I got my strike I said something that I most definitely would have said to the guy's face. In fact I was a little more reserved than that! What gets me hot headed is when someone puts me down... and when that happens if I had a "face" to say something to, I'd probably be using more than words to communicate with them.

I think that's about everyone's "problem" overall. A lot of this "tension" is caused when someone puts down someone else simply because they disagree. When that person gets put down they retaliate.

These put downs can be very simple remarks that show lack of respect, and they can be very subtle while not technically breaking any TN rules including "attacking another user" but they ultimately mean "you don't know what you are doing" ...

I agree Nick, sometimes it's just a word or two that does the damage. If people just re-read their post before they submit it and reverse the roles so you are going to read what you're posting, they would see the problem.

 

[ShinyTech]

I believe its the dumbing down of america. The movie "idiocrocy" explains it in the first 5 minutes of the movie.

 

[Bryce W]

I have responded to much of these issues in the other thread, check it out:
http://www.technibble.com/forums/showpost.php?p=328495&postcount=32